Well, the title says it all. you might think that kapil is talking some shit here or may be he is uncle types, but yes I think that dating is still not allowed in India.
Some or most of the girls are shy or some are bound by restrictions from their parents. "Ladkiyan Date par jaati zarur hai, girls night out bhi karti hai..lekin ek bhi photo facebook par tag karne se mana kar deti hai ke agar gharwaalo ne dekh liya to"..means girls in India, they do go date, party, do night outs but are always in fear that someone shall not tag their photos on facebook otherwise their parents would come to know.
1. In India your parents consider you as small children, even you are 25+
2. Teenagers are not allowed to get themselves involved in a affair.
3. Yo have to make your life by studying, doing job and then they will find some match for you based on your horoscope or Kundli's.
4. May be culture is organized in such a way that arranged marriages are ONLY the best available solution.
5. You are not allowed to make your opinion because you are burdened under parent's obligation.
6. Parents will send you to some good international schools, co-ed colleges, but they will ask you not to follow their culture..
7. Condom is still considered a vulgar thing in most parts of India.
In Western countries, dating
is encouraged from the teenage years itself so that one can find the
best possible match. Spending some time with each other, traveling
together, visiting each other’s homes, and living in with each other for
years and even having kids before they take the important decision of
marrying each other – all these form a part of the dating routine there.
If this is dating, then it is evident that India has a long way to streamline this into its culture
In fact, it can be said that the concept of dating in Indian culture takes an altogether different meaning. Contrary to the Western world, parents form an integral part of the “Indian dating”
process. Here, culture, caste, religion and the level of education are
some of the important deciding factors in a relationship that should end
in marriage.
Parents are important!
Earlier, parents were given the responsibility to find the best match for their children. They consider the financial status, education
and most importantly the religion and caste of the prospective brides
and grooms before “rounding off” the right one. Many a time, the
marriage is fixed (say, engaged) even when the bride
or groom are kids so that they grow up and then enter into the
relationship of marriage. This is a very contrasting practice to what
happens in Western countries.
Even
though there have been significant advances in the living style, most
of the youngsters would still want their parents’ blessings before they
enter marital life. However, there have been an increasing number of
cases wherein there are couples who decide to tie the knot
without bothering about the caste, religion or the expectations of their
parents– many a time, the parents never accept them back into their
lives and it is considered as a crime or as an act of embarrassment.
Nowadays, there have been considerable changes at the Indian dating front. Parents are liberal regarding permitting youngsters
to date whom they like. But still a large number of youngsters seek
their parent’s opinion before they date someone or would want to marry
someone
Notably, in metropolitan cities, where the life is too busy, marriages between individuals from different castes a religions
does not create as much news or furore as that in villages. This is a
sign that Indians ready to accept and are welcoming changes in their
lives. Whatever is the end result, the acceptance and permission of
parents is still an unavoidable aspect in dating and marriages.
Is this Dating?
Before even the girl and boy see each other, the elders decide. Engagement
is a function like marriage. Many people tend to get the marriage
function conducted within a short period of time from the engagement.
Most of the couples fall in love with each other after this arranged marriage.
Strangely, there are marriages wherein the girl and boy see each other
only on the day of marriage. Apparently, this is how dating supposed to
work in India traditionally.
Nowadays, parents give the freedom to youngsters to date and find their
match. However, this does not mean that they can date as many as they
want before they enter marriage. The increase in the number of
matrimonial websites and Indian dating sites proves the fact that
dating is slowly becoming a part of the Indian culture. Metropolitan
cities have started to whole heartedly welcome couples who want to date
and live in. All these show that dating do exist in India; however, it
is yet to be accepted completely into the society as that in Western
countries.
