In India Dating is not allowed

Well, the title says it all. you might think that kapil is talking some shit here or may be he is uncle types, but yes I think that dating is still not allowed in India.
Some or most of the girls are shy or some are bound by restrictions from their parents. "Ladkiyan Date par jaati zarur hai, girls night out bhi karti hai..lekin ek bhi photo facebook par tag karne se mana kar deti hai ke agar gharwaalo ne dekh liya to"..means girls in India, they do go date, party, do night outs but are always in fear that someone shall not tag their photos on facebook otherwise their parents would come to know.


1. In India your parents consider you as small children, even you are 25+
2. Teenagers are not allowed to get themselves involved in a affair.
3. Yo have to make your life by studying, doing job and then they will find some match for you based on your horoscope or Kundli's.
4. May be culture is organized in such a way that arranged marriages are ONLY the best available solution.
5. You are not allowed to make your opinion because you are burdened under parent's obligation.
6. Parents will send you to some good international schools, co-ed colleges, but they will ask you not to follow their culture..
7. Condom is still considered a vulgar thing in most parts of India.


In Western countries, dating is encouraged from the teenage years itself so that one can find the best possible match. Spending some time with each other, traveling together, visiting each other’s homes, and living in with each other for years and even having kids before they take the important decision of marrying each other – all these form a part of the dating routine there. If this is dating, then it is evident that India has a long way to streamline this into its culture

In fact, it can be said that the concept of dating in Indian culture takes an altogether different meaning. Contrary to the Western world, parents form an integral part of the “Indian dating” process. Here, culture, caste, religion and the level of education are some of the important deciding factors in a relationship that should end in marriage.

Parents are important!

Earlier, parents were given the responsibility to find the best match for their children. They consider the financial status, education and most importantly the religion and caste of the prospective brides and grooms before “rounding off” the right one. Many a time, the marriage is fixed (say, engaged) even when the bride or groom are kids so that they grow up and then enter into the relationship of marriage. This is a very contrasting practice to what happens in Western countries.

Even though there have been significant advances in the living style, most of the youngsters would still want their parents’ blessings before they enter marital life. However, there have been an increasing number of cases wherein there are couples who decide to tie the knot without bothering about the caste, religion or the expectations of their parents– many a time, the parents never accept them back into their lives and it is considered as a crime or as an act of embarrassment.

Nowadays, there have been considerable changes at the Indian dating front. Parents are liberal regarding permitting youngsters to date whom they like. But still a large number of youngsters seek their parent’s opinion before they date someone or would want to marry someone
Notably, in metropolitan cities, where the life is too busy, marriages between individuals from different castes a religions does not create as much news or furore as that in villages. This is a sign that Indians ready to accept and are welcoming changes in their lives. Whatever is the end result, the acceptance and permission of parents is still an unavoidable aspect in dating and marriages.

Is this Dating?

Before even the girl and boy see each other, the elders decide. Engagement is a function like marriage. Many people tend to get the marriage function conducted within a short period of time from the engagement. Most of the couples fall in love with each other after this arranged marriage. Strangely, there are marriages wherein the girl and boy see each other only on the day of marriage. Apparently, this is how dating supposed to work in India traditionally.

Nowadays, parents give the freedom to youngsters to date and find their match. However, this does not mean that they can date as many as they want before they enter marriage. The increase in the number of matrimonial websites and Indian dating sites proves the fact that dating is slowly becoming a part of the Indian culture. Metropolitan cities have started to whole heartedly welcome couples who want to date and live in. All these show that dating do exist in India; however, it is yet to be accepted completely into the society as that in Western countries.